How to Reframe Self-Sabotage and Lose Weight After 40

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A Midlife Mindset Shift That Gets You Unstuck

If you’ve been doing “all the right things” but still feel stuck… If you’ve looked in the mirror and thought, “I don’t even recognize myself anymore…” If your motivation is MIA and the scale isn’t budging no matter how “on plan” you stay…

You’re not alone—and you’re not doing anything wrong.

You’re in a season that requires a different kind of support. Not just for your body, but for your mind.

Today we’re tackling something that might be the missing piece in your weight loss journey.

Why You Feel Stuck in Perimenopause (And How to Get Unstuck)

Midlife isn’t just a shift in hormones—it’s a shift in identity, energy, and how your body responds to the things that used to work.

This is the exact season I found myself in years ago. The weight was creeping up, my energy was tanking, and even though I was trying to stay “on plan,” nothing seemed to be changing.

What finally helped?
It wasn’t another diet.
It was a mindset reset.

I had to learn how to stop spiraling in frustration and start rewriting the thoughts that were keeping me stuck.

The Midlife Mindset Tool That Changes Everything

Let’s talk about the tool I now teach in my Midlife Fat Loss Formula: the CTFAR Model. This tool helps you understand how your thoughts affect your actions and ultimately your results.

Here's the breakdown:

• C – Circumstances: Neutral facts (e.g. “I’m in menopause,” “I gained 10 pounds”)
  
  
• T – Thoughts: What you tell yourself about those facts
  
  
• F – Feelings: Created by your thoughts
  
  
• A – Actions: Driven by your feelings
  
  
• R – Results: The outcome of your actions
  
  

Most of us don’t even realize we’re running on auto-pilot thoughts like:

• “This just isn’t working anymore.”
  
  
• “I can’t keep this up.”
  
  
• “Maybe I should just give up.”
  
  

These thoughts create feelings like defeat, hopelessness, or shame. And when that’s what you’re feeling… it’s no wonder you’re not seeing the results you want.

The Real Work in Midlife Isn’t Hustle—It’s Alignment

When I say “we’re here to do the work,” I don’t mean hustle harder or power through.

I’m talking about a different kind of work—the internal work of aligning your thoughts with the version of you that knows what she wants, and believes she can still get there.

Let’s break that down…

Doing the work means partnering with your body, not fighting it.

You may not recognize your body right now. It may feel like everything is changing and nothing is working. That’s okay.

But your body isn’t betraying you—it’s asking for something different.

Doing the work starts by asking:

• What are my symptoms trying to tell me?
  
  
• What does my body need right now?
  
  
• What would it look like to support instead of criticize?
  
  

Doing the work means letting go of perfectionism.

Raise your hand if you’ve thought: “If I can’t do it perfectly, why bother?”

That thought right there? It’s a trap.

Perfectionism is one of the top things keeping midlife women stuck. Real transformation comes from consistent, imperfect action. That’s how you build trust with yourself again.

Doing the work means confronting your “I’ll start over Monday” thoughts.

Let’s be honest—we’ve all been there.

The truth is, those thoughts are just old patterns. They don’t mean anything about who you are or what you're capable of.

Inside my coaching, we break those patterns. We name them. We reframe them. And we replace them with empowered, God-aligned beliefs that support who you’re becoming.

You’re Not Hopeless. You’re Just in a New Season That Needs a New Strategy.

You may not feel like yourself right now. That doesn’t mean she’s gone—it means it’s time to meet the next version of you.

One who:

• Knows how to fuel her body with the Trim Healthy principles for this season
  
  
• Understands how her hormones affect her mindset
  
  
• Knows what to do when motivation dips
  
  
• Shows up imperfectly, with grace and grit
  
  

This is the work we do together in my Midlife Fat Loss Formula:

💪 Mindset reset
🍽 Simple, hormone-supportive eating
🧠 Coaching through sabotage
🔥 Fat-burning movement strategies

If you’re feeling stuck, like your body is changing faster than you can keep up, and you're on the edge of giving up—pause.

Breathe.

There is hope. You are not alone. And this work? This work is worth it.

Let’s not run from the work. Let’s run toward it—with courage, curiosity, and the belief that it’s not too late. Not even close.

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